"19 Things I’ve Learned in 19 Years of Life
1.) happiness is not the destination, and it is not the journey either. it is just a feeling like any other, a fleeting emotion that comes and goes throughout your life. and that is okay.
2.) you do not have to have everything figured out. no one really has anything figured out, so stop trying to figure it out because you’re not going to figure it out. and that is okay.
3.) people who come into your life do not always have to stay in your life. everyone is a lesson. some are lifelong, some have an expiration date. some lessons are good and some are hard, but they all will help you grow in some way. not everyone is going to stay, because not everyone is supposed to. and that is okay.
4.) words and lyrics and quotes are comforting. they can provide a level of comfort unavailable anywhere else. sometimes they can explain what is in your head better than you can. and that is okay.
5.) do not apologize for your feelings. you can feel however you feel. your feelings are not wrong, even if they are not the normal response to a situation. recognize any distortions, but do not apologize for your feelings. your feelings are yours, and your feelings are valid. people will try to make you feel bad for feeling certain things. do not let them. you may just feel things more strongly than others. and that is okay.
6.) sometimes you will be waiting to cross the street and wonder what would happen if you just walked into the middle of it. you will be looking out the window from the top floor and wonder what would happen if you opened it and jumped out. you will be crossing the train tracks and wonder what would happen if you just laid down there. you will be taking medicine and wonder what would happen if you just finished off the bottle. do not do any of these things. do not plan to do any of these things. they are not the answer. if you feel they are, you need to tell someone and get help. and that is okay.
7.) do not compare yourself to other people. i know that sounds impossible, but correct yourself each time you catch yourself doing it. comparing yourself to others is a form of self-destruction. you are your own person. you are different from them. and that is okay.
8.) no one is going to save you. only you can do that. and that is okay.
9.) do not rely on other people to be the foundation of your self esteem- it must come from within. self validation is key, but you may need some reassurance and affirmations. and that is okay.
10.) take selfies if you want to take selfies. you are beautiful. celebrate it. do not let someone make you feel dumb for taking a picture of yourself. you felt attractive, and that is okay.
11.) everything is not the end of the world and sometimes sleep is the answer. go to bed. you will wake up in the morning, even if you do not want to. and that is okay.
12.) do not try to suppress your emotions. you will feel happy and sad and angry and hopeless and motivated and numb and up and down. these are all a part of life. let them come and go. you will feel everything and nothing at once. and that is okay.
13.) some days you will feel sad and you will not want to get out of bed. the first day, just stay in bed and watch netflix and eat chocolate and cry. the next day, you will want to stay there again. don’t. get up, take a bath, get changed, and go outside. do art. go grocery shopping. do something. there will be both active and passive sad days. and that is okay.
14.) be vulnerable, just not to everyone. I know it’s scary. there are some people you should let break down those walls you’ve built. but there are others who you should build higher ones for. you will get the two confused. and that is okay.
15.) you don’t have to be the best at everything. you won’t be the best at everything. and that is okay.
16.) do not text that person. you know who I’m talking about. you will feel lonely and want to feel loved and wanted and you know that person will give you that. do not text them. put the phone down. you will continue to feel lonely for a bit. maybe a week. maybe more. and that is okay.
17.) you are not a failure, but you are going to fail sometimes. and that is okay.
18.) embrace change. sometimes you will need it, even if you don’t want it. there will be good and bad changes. take them all in. you will feel both scared and excited. and that is okay.
19) keep going. you are going to be okay."
"I’ve stopped being sorry for all my soft. I won’t apologise because I miss you, or because I said it, or because I text you first, or again. I think everyone spends too much time trying to close themselves off. I don’t want to be cool or indifferent, I want to be honest. If I love you at 5AM, I’d damn well rather that you know I felt it. If I love you two hours later, I’ll tell you then too. Listen, I won’t wait double the time it takes for you to text me back because I don’t want to. I don’t care enough to be patient with you. I’m happy, you made me feel that way, don’t you want to know? So that’s how it’s going to be. I’m going to leave myself as open as a church door. And I’m going to wake you up before the crack of dawn to tell you that I’m fucking joyful, no pretending, not from me, not ever. Would you like some coffee, would you please kiss me? Here, these are my hands, this is my mouth, it is all yours."
Azra.T “Don’t Wait Three Days to Text First.” (via flowing-air)
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